UNLESS you hear God’s Voice telling you to marry a particular woman according to His
Timing, you are much better off being prepared in your life for having a wife
and a family.
For these reasons
EVERYONE should be voluntary celibates unless they plan to marry to have sex
with someone they can deal with spending the rest of their lives together.
This is the irrefutable
CONCLUSION of sex in long-term relationships if you want to obey God by obeying
His Commandments in His Word.
Unfortunately, having
sex outside of marriage in the “hookup relationships” (short-term or long-term)
does not really matter in many minds of unsaved unbelievers and “carnal-minded”
born again believers who “can’t help themselves” but to fulfill the worldly
lusts of the flesh in FORNICATION.
The Model for
relationships GOD laid out is found in the Beginning of the World in Genesis.
MARRIAGE is the ultimate intimate relationship between the sexes: male and female, men
and women.
The sinful world we
live in comes up with many “strange sinful ideas” on “relationships” like the
ABOMINATION of “sodomite marriage” that is ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTINGIN THE SIGHT OF GOD.
As Christians we OBEY ONLY
GOD’S WORD when it comes to the ONLY
relationship we can have sex in: MARRIAGE.
Any Bible-believing
Christian knows marriage is the ONLY
way to have sex by GOD’S PERMISSION even if we may sin against God (and ourselves)
by fornication.
KJV 1 Corinthians 6:18-20,
18 Flee Fornication. Every sin that
a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth
against his own body.
19
What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God,
and ye are not your own?
20
For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your
spirit, which are God’s.
The Bible is clear and
simple on what we should and should not do.
Let’s not
“over-complicate” and just take what the WORD says at FACE-VALUE looking
directly from the pages and obey and do them.
Ultimately, end
relationships with people you consider for marriage on “good terms” and “ease
out” of their causing as little pain and grief as you can and pray the best for
them.
Instead of possible
husbands and wives, they may become (lifelong) “friends” or “colleagues” or
some kind of “friendly association” from a shared past.
Be VERY
careful that you don’t redevelop feelings or connections with people you
considered for marriage or that can cause jaded, bitter resentments between you
and them when they see you married with your lifetime partner.
You will know what you
are dealing with if you, your wife/husband and ex-marriage prospect(s) “meet
up”.
Things may also be
“different” if your former “courtship date” is married; so tactfully behave with
respect always standing by your husband/wife to show you are committed to each
other for a lifetime.
KJV James 4:4-10,
4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses,
know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever
therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
5
Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us
lusteth to envy?
6
But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but
giveth grace unto the humble.
7
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from
you.
8
Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners;
and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9
Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and
your joy to heaviness.
10
Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
KJV Luke 20:34-36,
34 And Jesus answering them said
unto them, The children of this world marry, and
are given in marriage:
35
But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain
that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in
marriage:
36 Neither can they
die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God,
being the children of the resurrection.